Secret #1
Admit your mistakes
This does not mean that you talk to everyone about what is going on with your shortcomings. It means that you can own up to the things that have gone wrong. Managers have more respect for someone who admits to something that is not working and seeks out how to fix it. It shows maturity that you are a team player and understand how you need others to accomplish organizational goals. One person does not know everything which is why it is important to recognize the strengths (and weaknesses) of the team that you work with. We are designed for relationship. Being vulnerable is one way to connect authentically with others and to give others an opportunity to speak into your life and team for better decisions in the future. Admitting mistakes can be a positive way to get input on future improvements. I call these Personal Development Opportunities! (PDOs)
Character Quality: Honesty, Integrity, Humility.
Self-talk: I made a mistake. It's OK, I’m not perfect.
Secret #2
Count your blessings
This is one of the greatest assets a woman can have. Being thankful can change a bad day instantly into a good day. What are you thankful and grateful for? A thankful heart makes the heart happy, even if everything is not perfect or the way you would like them to be, focusing on things that are going your way can help you to have contentment when difficulties arise. Working through problems with a thankful heart will give you a good perspective for your day.
Philippians 4:8 Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.
Character Quality: Harmony, Gratitude.
Self-talk: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I choose to accept the situation, believe the best, and cast of the negative.
Secret #3
Stop gossiping
Be prepared for conversations. Take note of your favorite books, restaurants, current news or work-related topics. Embrace the motto to talk “with” others and not “about” others unless it is a praiseworthy comment. We have all heard the saying, “if you do not have something good to say, do not say it at all.” Having that as a filter for conversations will be a way to guard your tongue from gossip and slander.
Triangling is a term used when one person talks about a person when the other person is not present. A graceful way to respond to someone who does this with you is to ask them, “have you talked with ……about this?” Or stating something positive about the person being talked about and shifting the conversation to another topic. Gracious character can be trusted and when you do this it shows that you carry yourself with wisdom.
James 3:17 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.
Character Quality: Wisdom, Self-Control.
Self-talk: I will treat others the way that I would like to be treated. I choose to speak things that “edify” others as I engage in conversation.
Secret #4
Dress for success
Your outfit tells a lot about you. The patterns, colors and style of what you put together can show your personality of classic, sporty, fun or business. Understanding how to choose the right outfit according to the meeting or event is important. What you wear to a lady’s night out or a date with your husband can be a way to express your personality in fun, relaxing and then something more professional when you go to the office. Having a few great pieces of clothing and accessorizing is a fun way to maximize your wardrobe and express yourself. Less is more when it comes to wardrobing.
Know what colors work best with your skin tone is important too. Bring different textures into your selections to add interest and dimension to your look. Always dress to maximize your professionalism that lets people see your personality and charm. Stay away from pieces that focus on body parts as it distracts from the strengths and abilities that you bring to the workplace. Jewelry is a fun way to change a simple outfit. Take a grey suit for example; you can accessorize this ‘one’ suite with different shoes, earrings, and handbag that can be red one day, black another day and bright yellow yet another day. Three outfits with change of shoes and handbag.
Having a colorful signature notebook and pen is another way to bring style if you keep your wardrobe simple. If you have to wear a uniform and do not have the freedom to express yourself through clothing take time to manicure your nails with color and patterns to express your unique style.
Note: Beauty is intrinsic and perceived by the eye at first view. As we develop our wardrobe it is also helpful to include the thought that beauty is also internal and an expression of who we are, what we value and the virtues that are spoken about in the Bible as a Virtuous Woman. How can you design your wardrobe to best reflect who you are on the inside? This will allow people to have the ‘first view’ of you with the focus on you as a person and not just the external view.
Character Quality: Creativity, Contentment, Confidence.
Self-talk: I have value and there is no one else in the world like me. I am my authentic self and confident to bring my personality and skills into the workplace. I enjoy color and expressing who I am. My smile is my greatest asset!
SECRETS TO HAVING A GOOD DAY AT WORK
